Updated: Jul 4, 2020
You have just been given the most emotionally painful news of your life and now you have to physically experience it. What should you expect?
Going through a miscarriage, especially your first one, is a process you're never prepared for. Even if you knew it was coming, even if you read a million articles like this one and were told it was a possibility.
“You are never prepared. ”
There are 11 types of miscarriage. Depending on your situation - it is up to you and your doctor to decide whether you should naturally miscarry or have medical intervention. Medical intervention could be a D&C (dilation & curettage) or Misoprostol. D&C is a procedure done under general anesthesia where the doctor surgically removes the fetal tissue. Misoprostol is a medication given orally to help induce contractions to help your body push the tissue out. It is a possibility that even after taking Misoprostol you might have to have a D&C if your body does not completely miscarry as this poses a risk of infection.
Bleeding after a miscarriage, no matter the type, can last anywhere from a few days up to a month. Every body is different, therefore there is a wide range here. If you're bleeding through a super pad in under an hour call you doctor immediately.
There is no right or wrong way to act or feel after a miscarriage. However you are feeling is right, honor it. Take time off from work to grieve and be gentle with yourself. Join support groups online or in-person to share stories about your situation.
The physical recovery time can last up to one month. Sex will be off limits until your doctor has cleared you. Mentally, it is up to you to decide how much time you need.
Ovulation and your cycle should return within 4-6 weeks after your loss. There are no studies that show that you should wait any specific length of time to try and conceive again; however, most doctors recommend waiting 1 cycle.